We spend about half our lives at work, and some hard-working souls even exceed 200 hours there per week. So it’s logical that not every work relationship stays just at the level of friendship. We’ve mapped love at the office from four different angles. What are the pluses and minuses that you can encounter?
1/ Working mood
Workplace relationships can be beneficial for the enthusiasm that flows into you (especially at the start). Your good mood and positive motivation can also infect your workmates. In the most ideal of scenarios, everyone else then looks forward to a workplace where you’re all full of energy and giving your best.
But your flame of love will die down over time, and you’ll run into that wall called reality. You’ll find that you and your partner have become a closed-off unit and that your relationships with other workmates have worsened. You should expect gossip and inappropriate jokes right from the start as an automatic part of the package called “workplace romance.” Even worse moments will arrive if the relationship ends, with your initial good mood exchanged for sadness, rage, and tears.
2/ Shared Interests
Due to their shared focus and personal traits, people in a team often feel very close to each other. Also, they’re often working on the same problems and celebrating and lamenting in unison. You’re working at one company, moving around in the same environment, surrounded by the same people. It seems like you’re as connected as can be.
But often you can come to find that work is actually the only thing you’re able to talk about. Watch out that you’re still able to talk about something else at home than this one big topic and that your relationship doesn’t become a drag.
Many scientific studies have shown that sexual release helps to quickly relieve stress. If there’s a lot of pressure at work or nervousness before a demanding meeting, having a sexual partner around can be beneficial. Sex also raises testosterone levels, which bring increased self-assurance, and through that more success in your projects. “Workplace flames amount to a sort of release valve, an easing up after the tension of work. The increased endorphine production even raises performance and work productivity. If the lovers stay undiscovered and they don’t have partners waiting at home, I don’t see these fleeting affairs as a source of complications,” says professor Sean M. Horan, the author of the book Adventures in Dating. A study by Nick Drydakis from the University of Cambridge also says that people who have frequent sexual contact earn more.
Yes, sex at work can also bring negatives. One specific negative is the “hallway of shame” that you have to walk through where everyone sees you walking out of the company party with your workmate. The worse variant here is where your relationship ends because the management catches you, and does so during working hours...
Time flexibility is an unambiguous advantage, especially for workaholics who only go home to sleep (see point 3). These can more easily find a few shared moments in their shared work. Whether it’s a moment over afternoon coffee, a shared lunch, or a shared morning trip to work.
Sometimes there can be too much shared time, and your partner will end up getting on your nerves after a while. In the worst case, you can end up getting on their nerves. In short, cabin fever.